Insights with Dzigbordi K. Dosoo : Overcoming fear

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Positive conflicts in the workplace
Dzigbordi K. Dosoo is a Personal Impact, Professional Growth and Influence Expert

There are many skills we can learn to improve our lives and productivity in the workplace. One of them is getting through and overcoming fear – the skill anyone who is willing can learn. No one was born with fear. It is something we pick up as we grow and the fear we have at each stage of our lives is different. Some people are able to overcome their fears by letting go of them while some people hold on to it till it is established in their minds that, it is part of who they are. This can be seen in the workplace where some workers set goals and are able to follow through and others set goals and although they are competent, are not able to face their fears, deal with them and work through to the end in fulfilling their goals.

 

We are in a new year and I know you have set new goals to achieve. Do you know that fear can prevent you from bringing about the productivity you seek through these goals in order to move the needle in your career? Fear is the number one limiting factor that prevents people from working toward what they really want. It can distract you and cause you to make excuses which are nonexistent. Despite the fact that most of us desire enthusiasm and change at work to keep us inspired and involved, there is a part of us that also fights back and fears change. What is your fear? Is it fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of change, fear of commitment or fear of getting stuck along the way?

 

Since it is critical for creating a growth-centric environment where trust, communication, and strength thrive, overcoming fear should start with those in the leadership roles in organisations, companies and businesses, so that it can flow down to the rest of the team. Without facing and overcoming our fears, we would not be able to grow as individuals and as contributing members of our society. Those who become successful are those who are able to find, embrace and challenge their fears. This sets them apart from the average people who pretend they are not afraid yet never take a step.

 

Around this time of the month is when most people start giving up on their new year’s resolutions, goals and targets. The good news is that, nothing is as it seems at first. If you have noticed that your resolutions are slipping away, do not feel disheartened or be afraid. It is a process. You must understand that it is going to take a lot of effort for you to achieve those resolutions. It will take rejection and redirection; it will take battles and resiliency; it will take hurt, pain and healing; and it will take a lot of discomfort. Because you have not experienced these resolutions before, it becomes a little hard to understand if what you are doing is working or not. Nevertheless, you do not have to quit on yourself and your team that is counting on your contribution to rake in the needed productivity this year. Achieving your resolutions, goals and targets will take time and patience. You are however going to need strength and courage to acknowledge your mistakes so far, and work toward becoming better.

 

In order to get the job done, win the contract, or do any form of engagement, you would have to be ready for your next conversation. Maybe the reason why you have started recoiling back into your shell is the fear of the right way to engage in your next conversation that will open the doors for you. Let me share a practical tool you can use, to write and master. It is what I call the 4Es of Outstanding Conversation:

  • Exposure – what is it that you have seen? This is not about travelling anywhere, but what is it that you have encountered that you can share with ease?
  • Experience – where have you been? Do you have a story that only you can share?
  • Engagement – who do you know that has made an impact on you that you can talk about?
  • Education – what do you have? What is your product? Are you the product? Is it a service you have or something tangible?

 

When you are prepared with this information, your interview, networking, presentation or conversation will be a lot more confident.