A few weeks ago, I was facilitating a leadership training for some executives and one of my questions to them was, “what do you think is the best way to beautifully end your 2022 and start your year 2023?”
Some of the answers of these directors are as below:
“Achieving my set targets, earning a great bonus, being able to submit my MBA project work, taking a vacation with the family, looking for a time to rest, getting a new car, moving into a new house,etc.” The list was endless… but an answer a lady gave me stuck a chord in me. She said, “I am going to sit down, write out my blessings, name them one by one and be grateful for them.” What an answer!
In this article, we will discuss some benefits of gratitude and see how to make it a lifestyle.
First, let us define gratitude. Gratitude comes from the Latin word gratus, which means “thankful, pleasing.” When you feel gratitude, you are pleased by what someone did for you and pleased by the results. According to Oxford Dictionary, “Gratitude is also the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.”
What kind of impact gratitude can have on us for the year 2023
Gratitude is not a feeling but it is a decision. Gratitude goes together with “attitude”. “Count your blessings, name them one by one”, are the lyrics of a popular song but this does not come automatically. We need to consciously choose to practice gratitude. “Gratitude and attitude are not challenges; they are choices“, remarks Robert Braath.
Gratitude helps to have a happier, joyful and fulfilled life: According to Amy Collette “Gratitude is a powerful catalyst for happiness. It’s the spark that lights a fire of joy in your soul.” People who are grateful are happier according to Psychologists. A study showed that a single thoughtful appreciation leads to an immediate 10 percent increase in happiness and a 35 percent reduction in depressive symptoms. When it becomes a habit, it can help prevent anxiety and depression. Once we cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to us, we find the energy and the drive in us to motivate ourselves and to be focused. Then we are able to achieve more than we can imagine.
Gratitude will help to see the future brighter and to enter 2023 with much optimism and greater hope “Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity … it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow” observes Melody Beattie.
I met a man who has made gratitude his lifestyle and one of his favorites quotes is “the future is bright”. He is optimistic and has the ability to seize great opportunities. What a great business man and leader!
Gratitude will have effects on your mental, professional, physical and social health
When we experience or practice gratitude, the brain releases hormones linked with social behavior. Dr. Susan Ferguson says when humans feel gratitude, the brain produces oxytocin, a hormone important to bonding”. Oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin are often referred to as “happy hormones” and they have such great positive impact on our health and immune systems. One of the best ways to increase them is to make gratitude and thanksgiving our lifestyle.
Grateful people are less focused on themselves and on others’ needs. They are able to relate better with others. John Ortberg adds, “Gratitude liberates us from the prison of self-preoccupation”.
As a leader or executive, to get your team to give you their best, you must learn to appreciate them often. “A person who feels appreciated will always do more than is expected.” – Brigette Hyacinth
Practicing gratitude in order to be healthy mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually is really powerful. Zig Ziglar affirms, “Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for.”
Some Practical ways of being grateful for 2023
- Kindly take stock of the year 2022
- Start reviewing the year 2022 from January 2022 till December 2022
- Write down all the good things you have enjoyed
- Write a list of the people you are grateful for and let them know
- Being grateful for the painful and bad experiences, lost opportunities empowers, liberates us from fear, and helps to convert these painful experiences into riches experiences, which can serve us and serve others
- It is a good time to get a journal of gratitude ready for 2023
- For now, decide to write daily five things for which you are grateful
- Get a gratitude friend or buddy to help you sustain your gratitude practice.
As you decide to “count and name your blessings” for 2022 one by one and express sincere gratitude for them, you will see how it will affect your perspective about 2023 and how bright the future will look for you. So now “go and make gratitude your lifestyle” and “wear gratitude like a cloak, and it will feed every corner of your life,” advises Rumi.
Have a Happy New Year 2023 with gratitude as a lifestyle !!!
Patrick Sassou Abah-Dakou, Founder and CEO of P&F Coaching International
Certified Emotional Intelligence and Leadership Coach
Entrepreneur, International Facilitator and Consultant
Patrick has trained over 850 Middle and Top Executives of 19 companies in more than 18 countries in Africa and outside Africa in leadership and Emotional Intelligence.
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