Hands are not for Grabbing

“We rise by lifting others.” – Robert Ingersoll

For far too long, being nice has been mistaken for being weak. In reality, niceness is a necessary quality of leadership for the world we’re living in. It has become so rare that when someone does a kind act or goes out of their way to be nice to someone, it goes viral on social media. Being nice doesn’t mean you can’t make hard decisions or stand up to difficult people. It just means you are respectful, kind, and show empathy to others.

“Any strategy or business plan relies on motivated and engaged people to make it happen.  It’s just like a relationship. For a relationship to last there must be mutual respect, love, trust, understanding and appreciation. Without these, the foundation is shaky. This is why the most successful companies focus on people and relationships, and make sure both are not just managed but lead and cared for” – Brigette Hyacinth

Grabbing and Greedy

What is Greed? A selfish or excessive desire for more than what is needed or deserved, especially of money, wealth, food, or other possessions.  In human mind is always greed. Some greed brings destruction whiles other brings improvement in the living standard. While greed is an inner condition, it can be expressed in many of the choices that the greedy person makes.

A deeper understanding of greed can help us to see that it is not only material goods that we desire money for, but also the security and independence that wealth can bring. Wealth is not a bad thing, in and of itself. It can help us meet our basic needs as well as enjoy luxuries which make life better. In many ways, greed is foremost a matter of the heart, of our inner lives. Greed is an excessive love or desire for money or any possession. It is not merely caring about money  and possessions, but caring too much about them. The greedy person is too attached to his things and his money, or he desires more money and more things in an excessive way. Greed has unpleasant effects on our inner emotional lives. The anxiety and restlessness we feel when we long for some possession, and the false assurance that upon gaining it we’ll be put at ease and satisfied places us in a literally vicious circle. By contrast, the virtue of generosity is most present not only when we share, but enjoy doing so.


Hands are for Helping

No one can help everyone, but everyone can help someone. We all should be kind and helpful and being helpful means we should be ready for lending a helping hand to anyone who needs it. Even if they are strangers, we should help in times of need. Lending a helping hand to a person shows how kind a person is. Helping each other makes the world go round, and for centuries people have helped each other to live their lives. A society which has helpful members is a society which flourishes much faster than those which do not.

Every day we are in need of help from others, and we remember those who went out of their normal way to provide us with some help. Helping others will surely make their day a lot nicer as well as your day. Helping a stranger is not only good for them but also to you. In return for helping them, you get their good wishes and gratitude in return.

“Helping someone is serving God himself. Helping others means helping yourself. Every time you lend a helping hand to someone, you make this big world a little better than it was. So if you want to make this world a better place to live in, keep helping others” – Vishakha.

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Hands are for hugging

Do them right, and you will feel warmth. But do them wrong, and you could have everything from major awkwardness to a slap in your face.  A hug can convey a number of meanings. So you should be aware of the message you are sending across while hugging.

Hugging has been proven to have health benefits. One study has shown that hugs increase levels of oxytocin and reduce blood pressure. Leo Buscaglia, who was a professor at the University of Southern California, encourages people to hug for 21 days consecutively and to have each day a hug that lasts for a minimum of 21 seconds. He recommends “getting lost in the hug”, encouraging people to slow down and “use the power of the hug to be fully present in the moment.”

A hug is a form of nonverbal communication and is the most common way to express love and affection. Everyone needs physical contact to survive, and hugging is an act of giving and receiving the support and love people need. The type of hug shared between two people can speak volumes about their relationship and can also strengthen bonds. Contrarily, a lack of hugs and other forms of physical affection can diminish the quality of romantic relationships and make some people experience increased emotional stress. Nevertheless, don’t feel rejected if someone declines a hug. People have many different reasons for declining a hug; therefore there is no need to take it personally.

The Hugging Chemistry

Hugs promote heart health. A large-scale study found that while hugging, people’s heart rate lowered significantly compared to those who didn’t hug. They provide reassurance. A hug lets your partner know everything is okay between you. Hugs are a natural stress reliever. If you or your love are feeling stressed, give each a tight squeeze. Doing so reduces the amount of the stress hormone cortisol produced in the body.

We hug others when we’re excited, happy, sad, or trying to comfort. Hugging, it seems, is universally comforting. It makes us feel good. And it turns out that hugging is proven to make us healthier and happier. According to scientists, the benefits of hugging go beyond that warm feeling you get when you hold someone in your arms. Hugs reduce stress by showing support. When a friend or family member is dealing with something painful or unpleasant in their lives, give them a hug.

Hugs may protect you against illness. The stress-reducing effects of hugging might also work to keep you healthy. Hugging is really good for your heart health and can make you happier. Oxytocin is a chemical in our bodies that scientists sometimes call the “cuddle hormone.” This is because its levels rise when we hug, touch, or sit close to someone else. Oxytocin is associated with happiness and less stress.

A good hug increases the feeling of safety, security, trust and belonging. These are the foundations of all healthy relationships. The energy exchange between the people hugging is an investment in the relationship. It encourages empathy and understanding. This is more likely to result in win-win outcomes and longer lasting relationships. So, if you want to feel better about yourself, reduce your stress, improve communication, and be happier and healthier. It seems that giving and asking for more hugs is a good place to start.

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So how many times do we have to hug? Renowned psychotherapist Virginia Satir said, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.” While that may sound like a lot of hugs, it seems that many hugs are better than not enough. Therefore, don’t hold back.

Hands are for Handshaking

The handshake is one of the highest forms of symbolic currency with the power to unite, divide, seal deals, and break peace. It is a simple gesture that can be more informative to people than a whole host of grand speeches. And they dig into our cultural consciousness, staying glued in our memory in the peace or reconciliation they were supposed to bring.

It is said that you can learn a lot about someone from their handshake – but it appears they may be learning far more about you than we have perhaps ever realised. Handshakes tell an individual how extrovert and social he or she is towards the society. If a person himself or herself comes forward for shaking hand, it shows that the person is not at all shy and is quite extrovert. This is also one of the good qualities that a person must possess, in order to get success in life.

Handshakes in original strike a balance between a forceful grip and finalisation of the projects when it comes to the business works. Handshakes are the non-verbal form of communication which determines the engagement of one person with another communicating the strong impact. Strong and firm handshakes tells about a person’s personality, business styles and the various negotiating techniques. The firm handshakes are of great importance to large established business and the employees as well.

The first impression is the last one in the businesses and one never gets a second chance when it comes in terms of negotiating the business proposals and the deals. Strong handshakes set a tone as well as the perception of one’s abilities. Loose handshakes show uncertainty and lack of interest in the proposal by the person. The more firm a handshake is, the more the confidence is reflected to the opposite individual. When a person shakes hand firmly, it shows that the person is confident in what he or she has come forward to accomplish.

Maybe the person fails to convince otherwise by verbal communication but the non verbal gestures at times reflect the trust factor within. It shows how confident you are, and if you will be confident only then you will be able to reflect trust in others for you. Your confidence helps in instilling trust in your words and the work abilities you possess. Therefore, firm and strong handshake is vital.

When you meet someone, make sure to make a handshake. This is by human nature or we can say by default only, that a person heads towards the handshake along with a constant eye contact which shows the connection between the individuals. If a person does not make an eye contact, it gives an impression that the person has forcefully arrived for the purpose or the person is not at all interested in the matter. So, it is better to have a good and tight handshake.


Writer: Gideon Sarfo

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