The side “chick” phenomenon

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Being the other woman and enjoying the benefits that comes with it and with ease. The lady/woman in question is known to be the side chick.

A mistress a man one dates in addition to one’s girlfriend or wife, is usually kept secret. In other words, it is neither a male’s wife, or girlfriend who has relations with the male while he is in another relationship. It is to be noted, however, that, there are some females in relationships who do not know they are just side chicks.  They think themselves as the main chicks.

Not everyone can be the starter all the time, so some ladies end up settling into their role as a back-up, regardless of their intentions. Just because you don’t know you’re a side chick doesn’t mean you’re not, but there are a lot of red flags you can look for if you think you might be one.

When thinking of a Side Chick, Mistress, or ‘Jump-off’, the first thought that comes to mind is usually, a home-wrecker, a slut, a whore, or some other derogatory term to describe this immoral woman who uses her feminine wiles to attract, and monopolize the attention of a married or an otherwise involved man.

To say they seek out married men, without regard for the homes, and the lives that they will inevitably destroy is an understatement. Unfortunately, this only describes a small part of this demography, and at best, just ends up being a defense mechanism used by women who fear falling victim to these sultry predators.

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Your life becomes simple in so many different ways. If you are a girl who likes to shop, you will be on the top of the world. If you have a taste for luxury, there is nothing he cannot buy for you. Whilst the main chick does all the filthy jobs of cleaning, washing and putting up with his mood swings, the side chicks is just there to satisfy him sexually and make him happy all the time, and get to enjoy these luxuries. There’s often no emotional bonding just sex and money.

It must however be noted that some of these men can be very possessive, and controlling. Since they actually get all these things for the lady.  They also demand a high level of secrecy.

Dating a wealthy man comes at a cost. While you have many benefits that you can take from a guy who has plenty of cash, you will also have to adapt yourself to his rich tastes, and put up with his many rules such as calling at a certain hours, satisfying him even if you’re not in the mood, and less or no privacy for you because he comes and goes as he wants. And the lingering feeling of him dumping you for someone new, is always a possibility. You have to be a perfect lady, you should dress well all the time, you can never have a bad hair day! The list is exhausting.

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When married people have affairs, it isn’t usually because they met someone and fell head-over-heels and just couldn’t resist the person that is their soul mate. Though that might be a factor, it might be that there is something not working in the marriage. There is resentment or boredom, or the spouse has some issue that has changed the relationship, a sick spouse maybe or even a nagging spouse.

It might also be that the person having the affair is unhappy in their own life. He might have an addiction, or an unresolved issue from the past or from childhood. Maybe the person is unhappy at work or is facing some bad times in another aspect of life a family member or parent, perhaps. Maybe he feels unable to turn to the spouse for support, and can’t communicate, so they seek attention/love in someone else’s arms. I’m not taking sides. Maybe the spouse has turned off, and is cold and distant and non-communicative.

At the end of the day, It takes two to tango, often the man might be faithful or innocent.

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