“Birds sing not because they have answers but because they have songs.” – African proverb
It is often said many on their death-beds have regrets over how they waited for the ideal moments to do right and live meaningfully, but somehow those circumstances never materialised. Sadly, many of us have not learned their lessons. We are waiting for the ideal conditions before we pour our wonderfulness on our humanity.
If there are any good luck wishes out there for you, please grab them – for you are really going to need a tonne of that. Life can never be perfect at any moment. It could be better, but we always have to make do with what is present. Interestingly, many of us never do. We waste away, waiting for the ideal atmosphere to make a difference.
We are all sensitive people. We do not like to be criticised, nor rejected, especially by those we know. We so desire good reviews from them, we are always striving to be perfect according to the voices in our heads from those people around us. We want to belong so badly we seek the perceptions other people have noted in their little green books, and live like that. It is as if to say life is too short to be any different from the differences that already exist. We are so scared of carrying our own crosses, many of us are carrying other peoples’ crosses.
What is your existential validation? This is a question we need to ask ourselves – often. Is it a desire to hear the talking drums beating out a tribute in your name, with a never-ending applause reverberating in the background as you mount the stage to be awarded for living a life everyone perceived right by their standards? If you desire such approvals and tributes, please be warned that they are not as fulfilling as many of us assume them to be. In fact, they are obstacles that prevent you from being you. They will slow you, restrict your uniqueness and make you mad at yourself half the time.
Too many among us are wasting away because we are not getting the much sought-after applause for whatever it is that we are doing. And so, instead of being wonderful individuals we have developed insecurities and social anxieties; frozen our intuitions and creativity; and embraced chaos in our inner-selves. We have become part of the problem in our communities, and it is because we did not get that nod from those around us for the goodness we poured out.
What we unconsciously forget is that an admirable life is one wherein you strive to be part of the solution instead of being part of the problem. You do not have to be applauded to make an impact; you just have to care enough about the flourishing of our humanity to make you live wonderfully. You do not even need to have a complicated spiritual philosophy; you just have to love people and care for the environment.
To live is to like ourselves as we are, in order to find out who we are and why we are here, and by extension what we are supposed to be doing. It is not to please the crowd or seek applause from passers-by. We are in the world, and yet out of it. We walk alone, but we never stand alone. We are to pay attention to the moments as they bounce of each other, and feel reality up close enough to our skin so that we can communicate what is going on, and if need be write it down as history. It is about living so truthfully like you that your uniqueness is experienced and embraced by the world in a differential manner.
Think of yourself as a wonder in an open field, where you live so meaningfully: you set the world ablaze by helping people visualise anew, think deeply and broadly about all events, and feel the sensations that vibrate with each rotation of the earth’s revolutions. Just as the sunflower blooms gracefully at the presence of the sun, so too should your presence wake the environment up. To achieve this, you have to wake yourself up. You have to listen to the promptings of beauty and truth inside of you and churn them out as goodness that you pour on the world. You have to live moment by moment.
You do not need to waste away. Do not be overwhelmed by the enormity of the challenges around us. Maybe you cannot do much, but do not let the paralysis of “I can’t” grip you. All that is required of you is to do the little that is within your reach. It could take the form of a smile, a compliment; pointing out the right direction to someone, opening a door – who really knows what it takes to bring out the greatness in ourselves? You need to understand today, more than before, that you are more than a mass of weight. In your truest being, you are a wonder and a mystery; you are a force, and an image of the divine on earth. You have a duty to divinise our humanity with that which is beautiful, true and filled with goodness.
Kodwo Brumpon is a management consultant and a life coach who inspires individuals, groups and corporate bodies to think and feel that which is true, and helps them to positively respond to that which is beautiful, while nudging them to let goodness govern their actions. Comments, suggestions and requests should be sent to him at firstname.lastname@example.org