All of us at some point in our lives will experience times when we feel that we are overwhelmed or cannot cope, and these feelings often impact on other areas of our life. These feelings may affect our professional life, academic studies, our relationship with others, or our personal life, to the extent that we feel unable to live in a successful or satisfactory way. Feelings such as fear, anger, grief, anxiety and loneliness can be distressing and can cause anguish, especially if they have been with us for a long period of time.
By now, you most likely have a go-to coping mechanism for managing these challenges that show their ugly faces……yes! ugly faces, that’s because they aren’t welcome but yet they almost always show up in our lives. And am hopeful that it’s something on the healthy side of the spectrum, such as; seeking comfort from loved ones, or getting the adrenaline pumping with those endorphins flowing with some exercise.
But no matter which way you deal, everyone can use a little extra support in handling life’s challenges, and one way to get it, is seeking professional help. This means to talk with a trained professional, and this is process is known as counseling. Talking to a counselor can be a form of relief for many of life’s challenges if not all. I will delve into who qualifies to be called a counselor in my subsequent articles, so as to be ensured the quality of service sought.
Hold up!!!!!! Wait a second! Before you immediately dismiss the idea, consider this; research has shown that verbalizing feelings can have a significant therapeutic effect on the brain. In other words, getting your worries out in the open (even the “insignificant” ones), particularly with someone trained to help you manage them is good for your well-being. Now, that should calm you down and get you to read further, because you are in charge of YOU, and your well-being ought to be your topmost priority.
Each day of our lives, some form of counseling makes a difference in the lives of individuals around the world. So, let’s just say you have decided to take the plunge and get some professional help. Should you seek counseling…..what are you to expect or stand to gain? But even before we get to that, first of all what exactly is counseling?
Counseling can be a confusing term; it often has different meanings for different people. The concise oxford dictionary gives at least two different definitions of counseling, which appear to be conflicting, adding to potential confusion.
It defined Counseling as “give advice to (a person) on social or personal problems especially professionally, and “the process of assisting and guiding clients, especially by a trained person on a professional basis, to resolve especially personal, social or psychological problems and difficulties.
With that said, before I go further I would like to clearly state here that the counseling relationship is a professional one and the boundaries and expectations of it are different from that of a friendship. Counseling falls under psychology and it’s known as applied psychology, which is a part of the HELPs profession same as other health professions.
The person who offers the counseling service is the counselor/therapist, the one seeking counseling is the counselee/client. Note that these terms can be used inter changeably but they mean or refer to the same thing.
Counseling is not about giving advice, performing miracles or magic, neither is it about providing quick fixes, telling you what to do, making moral judgments or putting you in a scary situation. Counseling is about helping you clarify the problem you are faced with, identifying options open to you in the situation, working out what you hope to achieve, identifying ways to achieve this goal and also providing support and encouragement as you work towards your goal with the counselor.
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